What do you think??

[SoLoGHoST]

Hey guys, have posted some pics up of what my wife has been up to since I left her house.  Here's some pics I found of her 22nd B-Day party.  Should I be concerned??  I mean, I know we aren't living together anymore, though we are still legally married, it just burns me up inside to see some of these pics....  Here is a link to a topic where you can see them over at Graphics Mayhem...

Wife at a Bar for her 22nd Birthday Party
(you may need to create a user account before you can see the pics, sorry, just not enough space/quantity to post them up on here at DP within this topic).

What do you think I should do?  Should I do anything?

Currently, I placed all of these pics in a folder on her Desktop, and the folder is titled:
CONGRATULATIONS - Maybe 1 of these people can satisfy you better than me!
Should I leave it like this for her to see when she gets home from work tonight??  Or should I do something else??  Or perhaps delete it and not let her know that I seen these pics??  What do you think?

I cracked her password-protected Admin account and reset the password, so no matter what I do, she's going to know that I was in her account.  Perhaps a bad move on my part.  But technically it's my account that she's using (my old account named:  SoLoGHoST), so it's really all of my stuff.  She told me that she deleted all of my files in my account, so I had to know if that was true or not, so I cracked it, and found out that it wasn't true after all.  Lier!  Just playing with my head.

Thanks for your feedback,
Solomon

[Costa]

Solomon, calm down. I know it's difficult, but calm down.

-Costa

[hadesflames]

not allowed to see that board...

[SoLoGHoST]

Shortie took it down.  Removed it.  Suppose he felt that it was too explicit for that forum.

Will post up another link in a few...

Ok, now I'm being too nosey, but apparently she didn't log out of vkontakte.ru and I can see her messages to this guy John (she claimed to be Alisa for some time, and than switched to Ksenia, but nonetheless, they are Ksenia and John talking).  This has been going on even before Christmas last year, she said that she wasn't talking to anyone...

ONLINE DATING with JOHN!  What a fool I was!

John:
Hi Alisa,
Thanks for answering all of my communications. I didn't think those questions were that hard. Since you wanted to ask them to me, I'll give you my answers.
3 wishes - Win the lottery, have a happy/healthy family, and happiness throughout the world (that one is like a genie kind of wish, some magic required)
1 night - I would want to take my special lady (whenever I find her) on a trip to Europe. Since it is one night, I can't go too many places. Off hand I would say go to Paris (I have been there before and really liked it, but would be up for suggestions, so I could see some different places.) and have a really nice dinner, buy some crazy stuff on the Champs-Elysees (I want a watch, a cool suit, and whatever else looks cool.) Rent an Aston Martin Vantage Roadster and rent out the top of the Eiffel tower for a private viewing with Champagne and chocolate covered strawberries.
(I know that might sound like I am too concerned with "things," but I only went crazy with the spending because it said not to worry about it ; )

So you want to walk on clouds? I have to say that is very original. I hear alot of people say they want to fly, but the clouds is a first. I can see it though. It would be awesome to float around up there, see the sights, have a picnic on a cloud, and most of all take a nap in a cloud. That would be the best nap ever!
So have you ever been to Rome?
And with your translating job. What are you doing with the benefits and insurance and stuff? I don't really understand. Do you translate from one language to another? Do you interpret legal terms into common terms or vice-versa? Sorry, I am just not getting it for some reason.

Anyway, I have said enough. Thanks again for all your responces. I hope to hear from you again, soon. If you have any more questions for me, feel free to send them. Have a great day. Sincerely ~ John

Alisa:
we are finally talking
or did you like the question game better?
if so here is the question:
what do you do when you want to relax?

John:
I am not sure if this is a trick or not....am I supposed to like the question game? When I want to relax, I daydream a lot. I likw ro think about soothing things, like fly fishing. I like to think about tracking down that big fish and making him take a perfect presentation.
So what do you do when you want to relax?

Alisa:
i take a bubble bath, watch tv, read a book, knit or crochet...lots of things, it really depends on my mood that day
that wasn't a trick question, it was just a question

John:
What's the difference between knitting and crocheting? What kind of things do you make?

Alisa:
knitting is done with two straight needles, crocheting is with one and it has a hook on the end of it. Right now I am making a scarf, it's getting cold out
I am more comfortable with crocheting, I made a dress, vests and stuff for my daughter, napkins, blankets...
Knitting is a new hobby for me, I've just began learning, so far I made 1 vest. There is a lady at my work who is teaching me during our lunch breaks.

john:
like how you just dropped in the fact you had a daughter in a conversation about knitting. How old is she? What's her name?
I have 2 little girl cousins (they are like 7 and 5 now, serioulsy they have grown up so fast, I lose track of them). I was their favorite babysitter for years until they both started going to school and I moved to Manayunk. Now I get to see them less often.

Alisa:
I thought it was shown in my profile that I have a daughter... Sorry, I should have mentioned it before. She is a big part of my life. but I try not to focus on it and do other things, otherwise I feel old and ugly ))
How was your weekend? Did you do any decorations yet?

John:
My weekend was short. I had to work on Sunday. I did not do any decorating yet. I think I might be heading to my parents house to do some of it this weekend. I might get a really little tree for my Apartment. How was your weekend?

Alisa:
I did some cleaning and cooked, didn't put up the decorations yet. I am the last person to put decorations up on my block.

John:
People put their decorations up too early. The easrliest acceptable day to do it is Black Friday. Anything earlier than that is juct silly. Stores drive me crazy how they start decorating after Halloween.
How much do you decorate? Are you an inflateable snow globe/plastic Santa kind of person, or a lights and a wreath kind of person?

Alisa:
i am lazy with decorations....i try to make it look nice, but it's a lot of money for those shiny snowmen and lights and other stuff... i try to go with what i already have and i also like making something with my own hands, i graduated an art school in Russia, so i enjoy arts and crafts....
last xmas one house from my neighborhood had like 10 of those big xmas figures (snowman, santa, deers...), they were everywhere - outside of the house, on the roof, you couldn't even see the house itself i think that was too much....
do you want to meet some time next week?
John:
Yea, I'd love to meet up. I was actually going to ask you that. Let me know when I good time for you is. How do you feel about ice skating? (just a suggestion, feel free to make your own.)

Alisa:
ice skating is cool! I've never done it before though. Where can you ice-skate in Philly?

John:
Penn's Landing River Rink. It's outside right next to the river, I believe

Alisa:
ok, when do you want to meet?

John:
Does Friday work for you?

Alisa:
not this week, i am so busy with work, studies and my daughter, can't even breathe. How about next week fri or sat?

John:
I may be in Washington for work. Can I just keep you updated and we'll work something out? How was your weekend?

Alisa:
sure, that's fine. past weekend....hm..i don't remember..my weekdays feel like years
so busy..
for example, yesterday I've worked till 12pm, ran to the store on my lunch break, at 1 I had an event we've set up for our clients, i was supposed to be there till 6, but i had a 5:30 class....came home freezing and soaked myself in a steamy hot bath....
today we had a company meeting, luncheon, some other work related activities, met up w an old friend, just walked in the door,
tomorrow......don't want to think about it...i am participating in a fashion show that our department have prepared for the whole company to watch, i am one of the models....for some reason i feel embarrassed.
what's your weekday/end schedule look like?

John:
Sorry I haven't gotten back to you. I have been pretty busy myself. I have been getting ready for this work trip to Washington and trying to do all of my Christmas shopping. I am leaving here in about an hour and I won't be back until sometime late Christmas Eve or early Christmas morning. I really don't want to go. And there's all this snow now I have to drive through. Oh well.
How did your modeling go? that sounded pretty exciting, I am not sure why you would be embarrassed. You should be honored, plus you are a very attractive young lady, you have nothing to be embarrassed about!
Well. I am not sure if I am going to get internet access in DC, so just in case I can't, have a wonderful Christmas. try to stay warm. Talk to you later/hopefully see you soon ~ John

Alisa:
Merry Christmas to you too!
What are you doing in DC? Hope you don't get stuck somewhere in this snow it's like Siberia out here
Hope to see you soon also,
Ksenia
P.S. I love this type of communication (writing letters). It's so old fashion

John:
I agree. I like the letters too. I love old fashioned things I always say "I should have been born in the 1950's".
I guess you figured out I get internet down here.
I am down in DC because I work for a company that does apartment and hotel bathroom renovations. So I am down here to do 8 floors worth of bathroom repairs in The Hilton Garden Inn hotel. It's actually kind of cool. I am in a really nice room (for free) and we are like a couple blocks from the whitehouse.
I don't mean to be ignorant, but is "Ksenia" your name in Russian? How long have you lived in the U.S.?
~John

Alisa:
I wanted to ask you how figured my name, and than looked at my last post)))))lol
Yes, it is my name, I wasn't sure what to expect from online dating, so I didn't put my real name up. Alisa is my daughter's name. I've been here for three years, may be a bit longer.
So do you do bathroom renovating for a living, or it's just a side job while you are in college?
I;m glad you like it out there. I was going to go to Washington with my Russian friends three years ago, but i had two jobs back than, I couldn't just live, so I never went. And they had so much fun....I regret it now. Who knows when I get to travel again. That's one of my passions.
Did you go out yet? Let me know about your experience.
Ksenia.

John:
Dear Ksenia (I have to start training myself to use your name now and not your daughter's : )
I am afraid that I am not going to to be to tell you much regarding my experiences here. They are pretty much limited to this hotel. We woke up at 7 this morning and I literally stopped working about 15 minutes ago (1:15 am), so I doubt I am going to have anything interesting to tell you. We are trying to get this job done so we can get back for Christmas. so it's all work, no play.
This is my job, for now. I don't like the term "drop out" but I did stop going to college for the time being. I do have a degree already and Drexel just wasn't for me I hated every minute of it and it was so much pressure. Life is too short to be miserable for that long (I was going to be a dentist, so I had 7 years of school left, and I am 23, so that lost it's appeal to me.) So now I do this stuff to save up money to start some of my own businesses. I am really passionate about fly fishing so I am going to start producing my own line of fly rods and reels and accessorires. I have all kinds of inventions just sitting in my head waiting to come out, it's just a matter of time before they can. So I am very excited for the future.
My boss is also talking to me about selling me half of the business, so that might be a temporary possibility as well.

Wow, I got on here to tell you I was tired and I'd write you tomorrow, but instead I just told you my dreams for the future. I don't know how that happened. I must be at the rambling stage of exhaustion. (also at the can't spell anymore stage)

So what part of Russia are you from? Did any of your family come over here with you? Was Alisa born here or in Russia?

Now it just hit me, I am about to fall asleep in this chair. Hopefully I can get a chance to write you tomorrow. It was great hearing from you again. it put a smile on my face after a very, very long day.
Have a great day.
~ John

Alisa:
Dear John,
Thank you for the letter. I enjoyed it. I'm actually smiling right now
Medical schools can be tough, I hear you. I've studied International Journalism in Russia for 2 years and dropped out because I never came back. I would love to go back to school, but I think I am passed the student stage of my life, I am taking claims classes now for improvement in my career, but It is as far as I can go right now. May be in the future I can pursue a degree.
I am from South - Caspian Sea. Well, from a town called Astrakhan - 2hour drive from the Caspian Sea I believe.
I came here by myself. It was supposed to be on of those summer trips. I used to travel a lot (I've been to Turkey, Poland, Hungary, Check Republic). I had plans for two summers after the one I spent here, i wanted to go to Great Britain and France and I still do. But I stayed. My daughter was born here. She is 2. I've been here for three and a half years.
I hope you got some sleep.
Merry Christmas!
Ksenia

John:
Dear Ksenia,
You are a very interesting young lady (in a good way : - ). It's great that you have gotten to see so many places. I have done alittle traveling. I went on a few school trips in high school. I have been to France and I really recommend it. Paris is great, but you need to watch out for pick-pockets and just general creepy guys. The trip I went on, there were 4 boys and like 17 girls, and 2 of the boys were only concerned with flirting with 2 particular girls. So I was kind of the protector for all the other girls from the creepy guys. But it is a beautiful city. And if you go, make sure you go to the top of the Eiffel Tower at night it is amazing.
Annecey, France is great too. It's a really old mountain village on the shore of a lake and it is just awesome. lots of great architecture and scenery.
Nice, France is cool too. It is on the French Riviera and it is like a really upscale area for people with alot of money. We went on a walking tour there, which was basically a big circle around the city, but I swear, we walked uphill the whole time. I know that's impossible but that's what it felt like.
I probably don't need to add to your list of places you want to go, but I also went to Costa Rica, and I highly reccomend that too. It was so much fun! It's like all Rainforrests down there. There were monkeys and crocodiles and iguanas, it was like a huge zoo! We went 4 weeling, and we did this zip line thing, where you slide through the rainforrest from tree to tree on a cable. and it is so cheap. I got 2 beers and gave the guy $1 (american) and got like almost half of that back in change.

I am looking at your last message, you are going to have to teach me how to pronounce these Russian words. If I am completely honest, I am not even sure how to pronounce your name, you russians have some crazy looking words (I know you probably thought the same thing about English words when you were learning them.)

This might sound weird, but I was hoping Alisa was 2. That is my favorite age for a kid. They are just starting to be able to talk but they don't quite get it all yet, so they say hilarious things, and the are just adorable. They are so much fun at that age. I miss my cousin Emily at that age, she's like 5 or 6 now and she is just growing up too fast.

I gotta get back to work now, plus I probably put you to sleep by now anyway ;- )
If I don't talk to you before, Have a wonderful Christmas and tell Alisa I said the same.
Have a great night/day
~ John
Alisa:
Thanks, I will give her the message when she wakes up. i am so tired right now, I had to work today, and than I went out with my girlfriends, it kind of just happened, we were supposed to meet for a drink, it turned into a bar and a club night...i am so very tired....but I still don't regret it we had fun......
I will talk to you tomorrow...
Merry Christmas!
Ksenia

John:
Dear Ksenia,
I am sorry I haven't sent you anything for a few days. Christmas seemed to be extra hectic this year. How was your Christmas? Did Alisa like everything santa brought her? It looks like you had fun Christmas eve, bars and nightclubs and all.
So are you still interested in meeting? and if so, are you still up for ice skating, or did you have something else in mind? Let me know what you're thinking. Have a wonderful night ~ John

Alisa:
hey,
my week has been so hectic!! I'll tell you when we meet, right now I am about to pass out.....so I'm going to brew some fresh cappucino and start cooking that chicken....
We can meet anytime after tomorrow. Just let me know.
Ksenia
i meant starting tomorrow
too tired

john:
Ksenia
If you would like, tomorrow works for me. Or Saturday, whichever you prefer. You still in for giving ice skating a try?
Have a Happy New Year. Hope you can keep yourself awake to see the ball drop.
~John

Alisa:
ok, can you text me if you still want to go today or tomorrow?
###-###-####
Talk to you later,
Ksenia
John:

I don't think you need her phone number so I substituted it with # signs.  Funny thing is, is there is no mention of me at all in here.  And I DID the decorations for Christmas, NOT HER!  She acts like she is living alone, when I was living with her the whole time this was going on.  FUNNY how I didn't even have a clue to this.  Just TRUSTED HER!  Will be back with a link to the pics.

Solomon

[hadesflames]

Yes, it is my name, I wasn't sure what to expect from online dating, so I didn't put my real name up. Alisa is my daughter's name. I've been here for three years, may be a bit longer.

It's over man...I'd get over her as fast as possible, working something out with the house as I suggested, and get back out in the game. Hopefully you will find someone better than her that won't be doing these atrocities. Just remember, the most important thing is your daughter. Make sure she knows you've always been there for her, and always will be. In the end she will appreciate your efforts, and love you for it, maybe more so then her mother.

Edit:

Let her know that you're no longer interested in her, and stop being so damn nice to her so that she can go out and party with other men without a care in the world. She's a mother, she has responsibilities and she needs to take care of them BEFORE anything else.

[SoLoGHoST]

Ohh, I'm going to leave all of this on her Desktop for her to see!  If she calls me, we'll talk about it I'm sure!

[SoLoGHoST]

Ohh, here's another 1 from Dec. 26, 2009 with some guy Louis, again, her name is Alisa:

Louis:
So I'm never good at the first conversation. It's suppose to be the most important one but I always end up screwing it up like a bumbling idiot.
Ok so you are Russian. Which is very cool. I agree completely with you on share responsibilities with a partner. I don't think one person should have to do everything around a house or apartment. What is a vice that you have?
I hope to here from you should. Louis
Alisa:
Hi,
You are doing fine with the conversation. "Vice" meaning a sin, bad habit? You kind of jumped onto that question like that is what you've really wanted to ask me all of this time that we were communicating through the guided communication just got that impression
I guess my bad qualities would be: i can be lazy if I'm tired from work, i think i suck as a mom, i have a two-year old that doesn't speak my language, it's just easier for me to speak in English to her, I feel that if I say something in Russian she thinks I'm crazy, she doesn't understand it. I can be jealous, if my man looks at other women, i'm not used to take that as normal, so I can get a bit upset. When I get upset I keep it to myself untill i get enough things in my mind to talk about and than I would talk to my partner and if my partner doesn't remember those things or tells me that I am making those up it or simply doesn't wish to talk about it I can get upset and raise my voice.
I am a one man person and would like my guy to give me the same attention.
what about you?
Louis:
Hi,
I guess I should have went into my detail when I asked for your "Vice." What I ment was the one thing you can't live without. Weither it be food or a TV show. Mine is popicles. Weird I know but they so good.
As for bad habits. We all have ours. Mine is I'm can't quit smoking and diffently can't seem to stop when great food is around. I'm lazy myself after a long days work. But who isn't so no need to feel guilty about it. Also I would have to say just because you choose to speak english to your little girl doesn't mean you suck as a mom. She has all the time in the world to learn. I can understand the jealousy thing. I have a few Russian friends and wives of friends and they have a strong jealous streak of there own. I'm a one woman man, although the majority of my friends seem to be female. I just find womens company better than guys since I live, work, breath, and eat with 150 guys everyday, all year. If things work out you wouldn't have to worry about me cheating or lieing. I'm not smooth enough or above average enough to even think about being a "playa" plus I wasn't raised that way.
What kind of movies do you enjoy to watch? Were you born in Russia? Favorite kind of foods?
Alisa:
 I was born and raised in Russia (Astrakhan - not far from The Caspian Sea). I came here when I was 18. It was supposed to be just a summer trip, but I've decided to stay.
My favorite movies - James Bond ( all of them, I grew up watching it with my dad in the kitchen, cause mom and sis were watching soaps in the living room,lol ), French movies, Spy movies, Comedies, Action like Transformers and Star Trek, Adventure type of movies, like "Pirates of Caribbean". I like Johny Depp, Matt Damon, Peter Brosnan......so if their name is in the cast, I would watch it.
I also like movies about 15-19 and beginning of 20th centuries, I think it's a fascinating era. I love that fashion, the way people were (well I don't know, i am judging by cinema and my grandparents tales ), so movies about the kings and their families, "Sherlock Holmes" or another example - "Casanova" and "The Other Boleyn Girl" (these two are awesome movies), yeah I like dirty love stories from Tudor and Victorian era ))))))))))))))))))))

TV shows: "Bones", "House", "Star Trek"

Foods.....hmmm, I like what tastes good. Perhaps french culinary. I used to love seafood, but I got tired of eating it, so I am taking a break from it. The one thing I will never get tired of is potatoes. I love it fried, steamed, boiled, mashed, cooked in a camp fire...........
Alisa:
I've wanted to ask you. If we decide to go on, how do you picture us? I mean you are in South Dakota, I am in PA....
And another thing, how often do you come home?
Louis: 
See that is why it is so difficult. Right now I am in Germany until March finishing my long stay here. I was born and raised in SD, but I descided to join the military. In at the end of April I head to Ft. Benning, GA were I'll be for the next 2 to 4 years. As for coming home. Since I've been in Germany it is once every 6 months. But being in the states is different because air travel is alot cheaper. If I have 4 days off. I'll get on a plane and fly any where I want. But honestly I'm not sure what I picture. I'd hope that you'd try along side me and make it work. If it doesn't I'd hope we could remain friends. But really anything could happen. If we are together for more than a year. Maybe I help you move to where I am. I don't really know though. Like I said it is all uncharted territory for me. But I'd rather talk face to face about any thing involving the last topic. It's not something typing can express.
Louis:
A girl after my own heart when it comes to movies. I don't watch enough TV but when I do. Something about the history channel just rocks. Food for me is an open catigory. I can eat anything. I love the taste and varity out there. I'm a huge have of Italian and German foods. I also love cajuan cooking. The south got it right.
Alisa:
I am ok with being friends and see what happens, but i have to say "no" to "Maybe I help you move to where I am". I want to be honest with you, so you should know that I don't want to move away from Philadelphia, I like it here. And, the most important reason - I have a 2year-old daughter. So moving would not be in my plans. I've moved from Russia, that was fine, because I was alone, but now I can't do that anymore. I have to think about her first.
I'm glad you like the same movies I do, we won't fight for the remote the way I do it with my daughter just kidding
so what do you do in the army, i mean as far as your daily schedule goes?
Alisa:
also, is it possible for you to upload a couple more pics of yourself?
Louis:
I can understand you don't want to move. I can actuallly relate to late. I'm not talking about now. I'm not talking about a year from now. I'm saying "who knows". Any way I'm not asking you to move at all. I don't know exactly what I'm doing in my life right now other than the Army.
Anywho my daily schedule involves waking up at 6:30 AM. and working out. At 9:00 AM I have to be in to work and I have to atke care who 10 soilders. It is a crazy time and I don't really get time to myself. At around 4:00 or 5:00 PM I get off got and go to the gym for a while and do my work out until complete. After that I either clean or just relax with a movie or book depending. After that it is nap time then I go out and work at a bar or a few drinks with friends from 10:00 PM to 3:00 AM then I get a couple hours of sleep and wake up and do it all other again. I don't sleep much being single plus I am an insominac so I don't get much sleep. But I am ok with it.
That is my life in a nutshell but it is a life. What about you? What is the life of a Transaltor? That sounds interesting and from.
Well hope to here from you soon.
Louie
Louis:
I can try give me a day or two and you will have a couple more photo's of me.
Alisa:Well, i don't just translate, i mean this is what i get paid for, but i also work with american members. I work for insurance company, so it's basically a desk work.
It is snowing outside. So beautiful! I can't even describe it, the street is white, like it's still daytime.
We have "white nights" in St. Petersburg in Russia, it's when it is very bright outside during the night. I've never been there, but i bet it looks just like that
What is the weather up in Germany?
Alisa: and let me tell you about my crazy days)))
weekdays are usually busy, especially during the winter.
mondays - are the busiest, i don't get a chance to grab my usual cup of coffee most of the mondays
tuesdays are better..
wednesdays: better than mo and tues, so everybody tries to stuff it with meetings and other stuff. this wednesday i worked till 12, at 1 i had an event that we organized for our members, was supposed to stay there till 6pm, but had a class at 5:30, came home freezing (around 9 i think), soaked myself in a stemy hot bath my daughter usually get is with me, this time she shouted "crazy", lol))
thursday we had meetings and rehersal for friday, big company (allstuff) meeting, huge luncheon/catering etc. and work of course
friday we had a fashion show - what to wear and no to wear to work - just something silly, kind of like a Christmas present from our Department to the company/coworkers. Than our boss fed us she cooks every Christmas.
So this weekend I am staying in, trying to get some rest. Next week is going to be crazy. I feel a bit lonely on Holidays, so I try to work those days.
Do you celebrate Christmas in Army?
Louis:
So you have a much busier schedule than I do. You must work for a big insurance company. I do celebrate Christmas, but I haven't done it in 4 years because of the busy schedule I have had with deployments and all. So I can understand being lonely. I just plan on relaxing this year though.
I know all about "White Nights" we have them to back home. I use to love going above my town on nights and just watching everything.
Tell me something you really enjoy that is just for you?
Alisa:
"Lush" - it is a company that sells handmade cosmetics: bath bombs, bubble baths, soaps, shampoos, masks - everything for the woman's pleasure. I particularly like bubble bath bombs - it is the best thing in the world!!! they have all kinds of bath bombs - vanilla, honey, lavender, herbs, marshmallow...mixed...it is all organic and handmade! Drop it in a steamy hot bath and...........I can't continue, I'm gonna go take a bath now...
..."Rafaello" - it is pleasure without chocolate. here i'll give you a link for it's commercial
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eS3s7aSp8ko&NR=1
Music - is my best friend
I think I'm going to ask Santa for an iPod for Christmas
What do you enjoy?
Louis:
Well "Rafaella" is well know to me. I have been in Germany for 5 years and it is so tasty. As for the bath bombs I have know idea what that is but it sounds amazing. I haven't have the luxury to taking a bath in a very long time. I can't wait until I get back to the states to be able to do that.

I ask Santa for a relaxing day of sleep where I don't get any phone calls relating to work or my Soldiers that I am in charge of. And I know it's a little greedy but I also ask for a new snowboard.

I enjoy music also. I would have to say the thing I enjoy the most though is food. I love cooking it, eating it, watch it be cooked. All types of food, food, food. I just love how you can capture the different flavors in different ways to make something wonderful.

So when you go out with your girls, what do you typically enjoy doing together? So you like baseball I am just guessing but your favorite team is Philly, but how about football? And if so your team?

Well I need to be going to now myself. I need to go and found out where the gym is. I haven't been there in a while.
Alisa:
I like Phillis. But Cliff Lee is leaving, so I don't think I'm going to enjoy their games as much as I used to. We'll see. I don't watch football, didn't get into it yet, and honestly don't have time. I've recently watched wrestling - that is so much fun!!!! I am a new wrestling fan
I also like tennis, Olympic Games (synchronized swimming, gymnastics - girls stuff)
When I go out with my girlfriends we usually go to the clubs, or doing shopping, or going out to eat, or all of the girl stuff in one day....spa may be....
sometimes they come over, sometimes we hang out at my girlfriend's boyfriends' bar...
So what kind of qualities do you respect in a person?Or what kind of woman do you respect?
Louis:
What I look for in a woman? That's a good question. I'm looking for a girl who is true to herself. Knows what she wants and isn't afraid to voice it. I want a girl who doesn't play mind games, but plays kind of hard to get. Someone I have to work for to show how much I care about her. Has to keep me on edge. Can't be afraid to try new things. Has to have a plan for her life which involves someone sharing her with it. But most of all understanding and honesty. No matter what happens the truth is always better than a lie.
I really don't have any question right now because I had a terrible night and can't think past the stupidiness of people. Some drunk guy totally tried to start a fight with me because some friends of mine and I were in his seat. I cooled things down between everyone, but on the way back to our rooms they followed us and there was a fight between them and us. I couldn't stop anything and end up getting punched and it upset me so I fought back in self defence and and then the police showed up and I'm the only one to get hand cuffed even though I was the only one who didn't drink. I was totally mad and now I can't sleep and all I can think about is the fact that my friend got arrested and nothing happened to anyone else. Grrrr. But anyway what are you planning on doing for the holidays. Is your little girl ready for Santa. Enjoy, Louie Alisa:
I am very sorry to hear about your day. I hope your friend is ok. That kind of stuff always happens at the bars, especially when you are not in your country, i can totally understand.
I had to work today, so I am very tired, i am going to sleep, I'll talk to you tomorrow.
Good night and Merry Christmas!
P.S. O, my daughter is ready for Christmas, she put the cookies for Santa out and went to bed, i think i can hear her snoring...
The gifts are all arapped and waiting for her, I know she is going to wake up earlier than me, so I know by the time I get downstairs all of the wrapping paper will be desperately removed from the boxes....hehehe
ok, got to go, falling asleep on top of my laptop
Louis:
Well everything worked out great. And nobody is going to get in trouble. I hope you had a great night sleep. Merry Christmas and enjoy your day. I hope you got everything you wanted for Christmas. I'm just getting ready to cook up a storm.
Alisa:
I'm glad to hear that you are both fine. The Christmas was nice. My daughter can't stop playing with her new toys. I didn't get anything for Christmas - I don't have any relatives here. Will get a lot of phone calls on New Years and Russian Christmas - January the 7th.
I am wondering what you are cooking.....it must taste good...
Louis:
Actually I cooked alferdo noodles, pork tenderlion, and green beens. It waste great like usual but it was tasty as heck. I'm glad your daughter had a great Christmas. I'm sorry you didn't get anything you wanted. But your not alone. I didn't get anything either.
So I was wondering what sort of music do you enjoy? So I'm want to tell somethings that I can't post on eharmony because then nobody would talk to me. But here it goes.
I smoke alot and I've tired to quit but can't. I also drink alot because I'm a single soldier who lives in the barracks. I sing karaoke and I'm not good at it at all. While at work a do swear alot because otherwise my soldiers under me can't get it though their head to get them to work. I have 4 piercings and am addicted to tattoos. I like dogs more than cats. And I completly love vampire lore in its intirety.
I'd like to hear some of your faults if you wish to tell.
Louie

[hadesflames]

well, she's been looking for someone else for over three years...I'd be surprised if there was nothing to talk about. Let me know how it goes.

[SoLoGHoST]

Links to pics right here:

Some Unknown Guy
Same guy again!
The Bartender, maybe innocent
Another Guy
And another guy

Than we have women pics, she told me that she was going to turn into a Lesbian (though she said she was only joking), not so sure about that after seeing these pics...

http://acs.graphicsmayhem.com/images/wife/3.JPG
http://acs.graphicsmayhem.com/images/wife/4.JPG
http://acs.graphicsmayhem.com/images/wife/5.JPG
http://acs.graphicsmayhem.com/images/wife/6.JPG
Her friend Susan kissing her on cheek (nothing serious I suppose, just weird)
And again

[SoLoGHoST]

Do you think I should press her for a Divorce.  She's mentioned it once before, but I talked her out of it, lately she hasn't mentioned it.  I think that she's holding me on as a sidekick in case she can't find anyone else.  Sort of as a last resort.  In any case, knowing what I know now, I'm not sure I ever want her back again.

Especially after seeing another Note that I won't bother posting on here.

[SoLoGHoST]

OMG, here is a pic of the guy John.  Had no idea she was going to a Hockey game with him, she told me that it was a work-related thing.  What a crock of shit, as it even says his name is John, dated Jan. 11, 2010.  I'm such an idiot for not seeing this earlier....

He's soo ugly looking IMO.  What a joke!

[hadesflames]

If I where you, I'd press for the divorce, let her know what you've seen, and ask the court for custody of your child, using these pictures and conversations as proof that she is not capable of taking care of Alisa, especially since she said it herself in the beginning of the talk with Louis. If you get yourself a decent enough lawyer, you can win custody IMO. Also, she can't say you invaded her privacy, as you found all of this under an account with your name on it. It's not invading your privacy if I see you naked in your front lawn =P

[Refalm]

They seem like a few friends just having a good time.

It's very common for drunk girlfriends to pretend kissing each other. So looking at those pictures, I see nothing wrong.
That chat conversation however, is another story.

[SoLoGHoST]

Well, in light of everything I decided not to say a word to her about this.  After talking with my sister, Tonette, about it, she said to just forget about her and move on with your life.  She said to stop being so nice to her.  For example:  Ever since I left (bout 4 weeks ago) I've been cooperating fully with my wife when taking Alisa over my place.  That is to say, I've had her every weekend.  The schedule that my wife wanted for me was this:  Wife has her Sunday (when I drop her off at her place), Monday, and Tuesday.  She takes her to daycare on Wednesday morning, and I pick her up from Daycare Wednesday evening.  I than have Alisa from Wednesday evening (5pm) to Sunday (after Church, I drop her off at Ksenia's place).  My sister says that that is too much for me to take Alisa and that she is using me.  Tonette says that we should rotate weekends so that I don't have her every weekend.  She says that I need to get out and have fun with friends also.  But most of all, she told me not to let Ksenia know that I know this stuff because it would mean an invasion of privacy and it could ruin what I have currently going on with Alisa (the fact that I'm still in her life).  There is much more involved here than just my feeling for Ksenia and Vice Versa.  I asked Ksenia if she would like to be present for when I take Alisa to her 1st movie at a Movie theater this Saturday, and she seemed interested in being there.  I know we all make mistakes, and I'm not using this as an excuse, and I know that I'm a fool, but I still love her (Ksenia).  She may be a lier, cheater, and hurter, but I'm a firm believer in that we can all change who we are and become better people.  I just hope I'm right.  I don't know how much more my heart can take before it becomes completely covered in darkness.

So, in short, I suppose we'll see what happens this Saturday.  I don't think I can trust her completely until she can start telling me the truth, so we'll see.  I'm just happy that now I know that it wasn't all my fault.  I kept thinking of how I screwed our relationship up and how I messed up.  I'm even attending mental therapy sessions every week now because I thought I wasn't right in my mind.  As strange as it may sound, I feel much better, now, knowing that she intentionally screwing with my head, and playing games with my emotions.  Well, I'm not going to take her seriously anymore, and won't believe a word she says until she comes clean with me on this.  So we'll see.  I plan on asking her this Saturday if she was ever with someone else while I was living there in the house.

Sincerely,
Solomon

PS - Just a thought, I wouldn't be surprised if she logged in either here or someplace else (pretending to be me) to try to get some info. on this from 1 of you guys.

[Costa]

Really, Solo, as a friend: Go away from home and have good times with your friends. Have fun, get drunk, run naked on the streets. But pass some time withouth that in your mind.
A separation isn't good, and when you have children involved it worst. However, the best advice I can give to you is: Have some fun and met some new people.

When I broke up my marriage, that save my sanity.

If you're my neighbour, Tonight you will be out of home and get a big drunk, really.

PS: sorry for the typos, I'm at Uni and this keyboard sucks -.-

-Costa